In other words, the one you're helping with climbing the ladder does not have to interfere with your leadership, by pretending to be the one who's in charge, or by making you feel inferior to them. If so, you have no power over them. Because of that, failure takes the place of success, as your connection to them brings no fruit.
For success to be there, what has to take place is a win-win situation, i.e., a situation where both parts win. They win because of what they become able to achieve through you, and you win because of what they give you back to thank you for what you're doing for them, as long as you're properly rewarded for your hard work. A reward which only comes, though, through a correct recognition and invitation. So, it all begins with not being there all the time, whenever that is what is expected from you.